Debunking Myths About Being Transgender

Questioning Gender? Start here! There is no right or wrong way to be trans.  Just because you are not cisgender, does not mean you have to adopt any particular definition of being transgender. Trans people can live happy and fulfilling lives, find partners and be in healthy relationships.  Trans people are not doomed to sadContinue reading “Debunking Myths About Being Transgender”

Gender-Affirming Support is Life Saving

Avoid Regret and Support Transgender Children Do you ever worry about regret? My Nana is almost 101 years old.  She has been in home hospice for almost two years and most of the time, she no longer recognizes her own children.  Her eyes look without seeing; her mouth moves without speaking; and her mind seemsContinue reading “Gender-Affirming Support is Life Saving”

Insistent. Persistent. Consistent.

Thinking beyond the guidelines when navigating the transgender journey Insistent.  Persistent.  Consistent.  Community standards generally use these descriptions of behavior as a guideline or indicator that a child is serious about their gender identity. That being said, the absence of insistent, persistent and consistent articulation of one’s gender identity does not necessarily imply that aContinue reading “Insistent. Persistent. Consistent.”

Being Transgender is Not “Just a Phase”

Let’s change the negative language and therefore, the stigma of being transgender Is this a phase? Parents commonly ask when their child comes out as transgender.  It is most likely not a phase.  More on this here: https://www.hrc.org/resources/transgender-children-and-youth-understanding-the-basics  For most parents this news usually comes as a shock but likely, the child contemplated their genderContinue reading “Being Transgender is Not “Just a Phase””

Positive Perspective for Parents of Transgender Children

Can transgender children grow up to live happy lives? “I don’t want my child to be transgender because I don’t want them to have a difficult life.”  This is one of the most frequent things I hear parents say once they realize their child is transgender.  Parents grieve “the good life” for their child, assumingContinue reading “Positive Perspective for Parents of Transgender Children”

Coloring Outside the Lines

Beautiful butterfly emerging from my cocoon and you act blind.  Precious sense of sight you waste; powerful gift of speech, decays. I feel invisible.  Challenges and triumphs go unnoticed.  I am not the butterfly; I am the elephant in the room.  I miss being a child – all I had to do was exist andContinue reading “Coloring Outside the Lines”

Brightest Bird of the Flock

“In nature, a flock will attack any bird that is more colorful than the others because being different is seen as a threat,” – Wrabel The greatest gift a mother could have – a daughter, and I’m stealing that gift away.  I feel her heart breaking- everyone’s heart breaking as I am transforming, evolving, reinventingContinue reading “Brightest Bird of the Flock”

Dear Dad, I Still Need You.

It’s lonely being transgender and feeling estranged from your parents.  I want to feel accepted and loved unconditionally.  I wish you could see that I am still the same human you have always known.  I might look different but inside I am still your little child. I realize that I sit here listening to musicContinue reading “Dear Dad, I Still Need You.”