Being Transgender is Not “Just a Phase”

Let’s change the negative language and therefore, the stigma of being transgender Is this a phase? Parents commonly ask when their child comes out as transgender.  It is most likely not a phase.  More on this here: https://www.hrc.org/resources/transgender-children-and-youth-understanding-the-basics  For most parents this news usually comes as a shock but likely, the child contemplated their genderContinue reading “Being Transgender is Not “Just a Phase””

Aftermath of Coming out as Transgender

What would you change if you could live life over?  What does love feel like to you?  Who do you see when you look in the mirror?  Why do people take each other for granted? Do you wonder who I really am when nobody is looking? Do you ever just stare at the ceiling andContinue reading “Aftermath of Coming out as Transgender”

Positive Perspective for Parents of Transgender Children

Can transgender children grow up to live happy lives? “I don’t want my child to be transgender because I don’t want them to have a difficult life.”  This is one of the most frequent things I hear parents say once they realize their child is transgender.  Parents grieve “the good life” for their child, assumingContinue reading “Positive Perspective for Parents of Transgender Children”

My Journey to Becoming a Life Coach

Turning Differences into Superpowers As children, everyone tells us, “Just follow your dreams!” or “You can be anything you want to be if you just put your mind to it!” Early on in life we stop believing this.  It just becomes another childhood lie, like Santa Clause or the Easter  bunny and slowly dreams fadeContinue reading “My Journey to Becoming a Life Coach”

Coloring Outside the Lines

Beautiful butterfly emerging from my cocoon and you act blind.  Precious sense of sight you waste; powerful gift of speech, decays. I feel invisible.  Challenges and triumphs go unnoticed.  I am not the butterfly; I am the elephant in the room.  I miss being a child – all I had to do was exist andContinue reading “Coloring Outside the Lines”

Brightest Bird of the Flock

“In nature, a flock will attack any bird that is more colorful than the others because being different is seen as a threat,” – Wrabel The greatest gift a mother could have – a daughter, and I’m stealing that gift away.  I feel her heart breaking- everyone’s heart breaking as I am transforming, evolving, reinventingContinue reading “Brightest Bird of the Flock”

Dear Dad, I Still Need You.

It’s lonely being transgender and feeling estranged from your parents.  I want to feel accepted and loved unconditionally.  I wish you could see that I am still the same human you have always known.  I might look different but inside I am still your little child. I realize that I sit here listening to musicContinue reading “Dear Dad, I Still Need You.”

So Do You Wish You had a Penis?

“So, do you wish you had a penis?” my therapist of a year asked me. “I don’t know.” “So, you don’t want a penis?” she pressed further with a slight re-wording of her question as if semantics would make me crumble and admit my most buried of secrets. As her question hung in the air,Continue reading “So Do You Wish You had a Penis?”