Brightest Bird of the Flock

“In nature, a flock will attack any bird that is more colorful than the others because being different is seen as a threat,” – Wrabel

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The greatest gift a mother could have – a daughter, and I’m stealing that gift away.  I feel her heart breaking- everyone’s heart breaking as I am transforming, evolving, reinventing relationships, re-writing language and re-conceptualizing existence and I feel my heart crack for them.  It seems as though the person they knew for 36 years is dying and all I can do is watch them mourn.

All this emotion is re-birth in disguise…

An enormous amount of courage this takes to face the firing line and still put one foot in front of the other but that has made me a better version of myself.  I have learned to not judge.  I follow an intense curiosity to learn the world beyond what we see on the surface and see pain in hollow eyes and pursed lips clearer than before so I no longer see labels; I see human beings. 

The strength I found in myself through this journey will carry me through the rest of my life and I am not afraid of change.  If I can change my gender, I can change anything in my life.

I discovered an abundance of patience within myself through which I have learned to live in the moment.

I refuse to let judgement or conformity get me so far down that I cannot feel the collective pulse of this world.  You may be seeing the loss of a daughter but the person you gain is so much more than just a label.  I will defy all obstacles to explore my true self, and never stop peeling back layers to discover the undiscovered.

All these undiscovered souls walking this earth and I refuse to be one of them.

And with this plenitude of knowledge I gain, I will confidently teach others that they too are worthy. 

I will make “mistakes” but I won’t have regrets.  I will be living consciously and authentically, and with the greatest amount of courage, strength, and compassion.  Maybe having a daughter is the greatest gift in the whole entire world; or perhaps, raising a human being brave enough to unapologetically live their authentic self in this world so full of hate and judgement, is an even greater gift.

Watch Wrabel’s video here:

Published by Christian

I am a Certified Life Coach at Out and Proud Life Coaching, LLC. I started out helping transgender individuals and their parents through all stages of transition. As a master of change, I have now expanded to also work with people who have a nagging feeling that they want something more out of life but are hindered by fear of change, transition, or difficult decisions. Please visit to subscribe to my newsletter or sign up for a free 30-minutes session so you can experience what coaching feels like!

9 thoughts on “Brightest Bird of the Flock

  1. I wish I had something a little more eloquent than this to say, but wrable… I found them at a key point, right as I was coming out, I must have watched that music video a million and one times. Just having a tiny sense of community and understand that “someone else gets it” from that video helped.

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    1. Absolutely! I’ve watched it over and over too. It’s a very inspiring video/song. Actually saw Wrabel at the ACL music fest and he seemed so humble and genuine. I wish more people could see the video- it could change how people see the issue.

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      1. Omg that’s so awesome. Have you seen the Starbucks Ad yet? That hit me right in the feels. Something as small as a 2 minute commercial… I think they did a pretty good job and it can reach a ton of people.


      2. I just watched it on you tube. Aw man, right in the heart! That is EXACTLY how i felt! Wow, really moving. Im so glad that this is becoming more common place in the media so it can become more normalized.. bc that is what it is- normal! Thanks for telling me about the commercial. I think there was a shaving one a while back too. But yeah, i had nobody to teach me how to shave; i had to look that up on the internet. Lol

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      3. I have seen the shaving one! Lol I guess that says a lot that there are only a couple, that we have both seen them lol. The shaving one was cute and gives a whole different message, just as awesome. That one was hard to watch because I will have to google it, if I go down that route. Or maybe a friend can help. Idk. Sigh. All The Feels!!


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