Brightest Bird of the Flock

“In nature, a flock will attack any bird that is more colorful than the others because being different is seen as a threat,” – Wrabel

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The greatest gift a mother could have – a daughter, and I’m stealing that gift away.  I feel her heart breaking- everyone’s heart breaking as I am transforming, evolving, reinventing relationships, re-writing language and re-conceptualizing existence and I feel my heart crack for them.  It seems as though the person they knew for 36 years is dying and all I can do is watch them mourn.

All this emotion is re-birth in disguise…

An enormous amount of courage this takes to face the firing line and still put one foot in front of the other but that has made me a better version of myself.  I have learned to not judge.  I follow an intense curiosity to learn the world beyond what we see on the surface and see pain in hollow eyes and pursed lips clearer than before so I no longer see labels; I see human beings. 

The strength I found in myself through this journey will carry me through the rest of my life and I am not afraid of change.  If I can change my gender, I can change anything in my life.

I discovered an abundance of patience within myself through which I have learned to live in the moment.

I refuse to let judgement or conformity get me so far down that I cannot feel the collective pulse of this world.  You may be seeing the loss of a daughter but the person you gain is so much more than just a label.  I will defy all obstacles to explore my true self, and never stop peeling back layers to discover the undiscovered.

All these undiscovered souls walking this earth and I refuse to be one of them.

And with this plenitude of knowledge I gain, I will confidently teach others that they too are worthy. 

I will make “mistakes” but I won’t have regrets.  I will be living consciously and authentically, and with the greatest amount of courage, strength, and compassion.  Maybe having a daughter is the greatest gift in the whole entire world; or perhaps, raising a human being brave enough to unapologetically live their authentic self in this world so full of hate and judgement, is an even greater gift.

Watch Wrabel’s video here:

Published by Christian

I am a Certified Life Coach at Out and Proud Life Coaching, LLC. I coach and mentor transgender adults and teens and parents with transgender children. I help transgender humans through all stages of transition and I help parents navigate their personal journey to gain the understanding needed to best support their child. Like my photography? I also do photography on commission! Please visit to learn more or sign up for a free 30-minutes session so we can get to know one another!

9 thoughts on “Brightest Bird of the Flock

  1. I wish I had something a little more eloquent than this to say, but wrable… I found them at a key point, right as I was coming out, I must have watched that music video a million and one times. Just having a tiny sense of community and understand that “someone else gets it” from that video helped.

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    1. Absolutely! I’ve watched it over and over too. It’s a very inspiring video/song. Actually saw Wrabel at the ACL music fest and he seemed so humble and genuine. I wish more people could see the video- it could change how people see the issue.

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      1. Omg that’s so awesome. Have you seen the Starbucks Ad yet? That hit me right in the feels. Something as small as a 2 minute commercial… I think they did a pretty good job and it can reach a ton of people.


      2. I just watched it on you tube. Aw man, right in the heart! That is EXACTLY how i felt! Wow, really moving. Im so glad that this is becoming more common place in the media so it can become more normalized.. bc that is what it is- normal! Thanks for telling me about the commercial. I think there was a shaving one a while back too. But yeah, i had nobody to teach me how to shave; i had to look that up on the internet. Lol

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      3. I have seen the shaving one! Lol I guess that says a lot that there are only a couple, that we have both seen them lol. The shaving one was cute and gives a whole different message, just as awesome. That one was hard to watch because I will have to google it, if I go down that route. Or maybe a friend can help. Idk. Sigh. All The Feels!!


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